As a Yummy Mummy to be, I'm loving reading books about pregnancy, books about babies and books about being a Mummy, but some of the more 'formal' books are really scary and offputting, despite their helpful factual content, and I'm much more inclined to read the more 'informal' funnier books, which I personally can relate a lot more to. I love writing myself, so thought why not write my own, mini survival guide for each trimester, for anyone else interested out there in cyberspace!
This blog post is by no means an exhaustive list of tips, tricks or to-do's, just things that I think are helpful and have realised after having survived the first trimester! FYI the first trimester is the first three months of pregnancy, that's weeks one through to twelve. Pregnancy is brilliant, but here are a few things that I experienced:
Morning sickness is a lie. A big fat lie! Sickness (whether physical vomiting or feelings of constant sickness) is one of the biggest 'symptoms' and indicators of pregnancy in the early stages. This sickness does not, despite the name, occur only in the morning. It is, in most cases, all day, every day, relentless in its presence. I can't abide feeling sick, I find it so debilitating, and there is virtually nothing that alleviates the feeling...not even being physically sick. My personal experience of 'morning' sickness was that I knew I was pregnant for 2-3 weeks before it kicked in, on Christmas Day of all days! Boy did it kick in though! For some women the sickness can be worse in the morning, usually because you are hungry and thirsty, and because mornings clearly weren't hard enough already! I personally found that the hungrier I was, the sicker I felt, therefore a good survival strategy seemed to be never letting myself get hungry. Easier said than done, when most foods you loved to eat before suddenly turn into the devil incarnate, and make the need to vom even worse. After a little trial and error, I found my 'safe' foods included white toast with butter, rich tea or gingers biscuits (ginger is renowned for lessening sickness), porridge in the mornings, and very bland white bread sandwiches for lunch. Dinners were a minefield for me, because even if I really wanted something, I could probably manage a few mouthfuls before I'd had enough. I did manage to keep eating a relatively normal amount, and certainly had days were the sickness was not as bad, but it was a long three months for sure! I also found that constantly sipping water and drinking a glass of milk before bed helped considerably.
Exhaustion is inevitable. And unavoidable! Again, another common indicator of pregnancy (if you haven't already taken a test and realised!) is extreme tiredness. An overwhelming 'inability to keep your eyes open after 8pm' type tiredness! There is only one thing that makes it slightly more bearable, which is obviously to try and get as much sleep as you can. I'm a terrible sleeper, I often struggle to get off to sleep, and wake up quite a lot throughout the night without drifting off quickly again, however even I managed to fall asleep pretty much at the click of a finger! Sleeping for me was also a blessing, because when you're asleep you don't feel as sick, bonus!
You will be terrified. During the first trimester I was so scared of doing anything that might harm the teeny tiny baby growing inside of me that I probably worried myself sick (even more sick!). I am a natural born worrier, it's my 'thing'. If I'm not worrying about something, I'll worry about why I'm not worrying! One of the first things I thought after realising I was pregnant was that exactly one week beforehand I had broken almost every rule in the pregnancy book: drank copious amounts of alcohol, eaten pate and unpasteurised cheese, been in close vicinity to smokers and had not been taking folic acid! Just remember this is a huge change, and its more than perfectly normal to be scared about it!
Baby brain is not a myth. Despite what scientists or newspaper articles might try and tell us! I can vouch first hand for the fact that it is a real phenomenon. I work as a personal assistant, therefore my working life requires me to be on the ball and organised, and although I can be quite ditzy (pregnancy or no pregnancy) I think I'm pretty good at my job! Within the first month of pregnancy I noticed I was finding it increasingly hard to focus and remember things, not helped by the tiredness, and have resigned myself to relying on a large amount of post it notes and lists! Thankfully my boss and team are very supportive, and I'm still managing to function normally!
Don't believe everything you read/hear. Quite a lot of it I think is blatant scaremongering! Some of the books and websites I have read since being pregnant scare the bejeezers out of me, and make you feel like if you do not experience or do every single one of the things they tell you too, you will be a terrible mother and your baby will be born with a huge amount of abnormalities or grow up needing a huge amount of therapy (OK, so maybe I'm exaggerating slightly, but what I'm trying to get across is take everything you read with a pinch of salt). I think its a good idea to stock up your bookshelves with a few pregnancy 'what to expect' type books, but as I mentioned earlier, I find the slightly more 'informally' written ones a lot easier to digest. My partner have both enjoyed reading books written by 'human beings' rather than 'experts', and its always good to have a laugh whilst doing it!
Start trying to prevent stretch marks. Sadly, some women are genetically more prone to stretch marks than others, and this ladies is one of the reasons mother nature is a bitch! I'm well into my second trimester now, and I'm only noticing stretch marks on my boobs so far, so I like to think the oils are doing their job! FYI I'll be doing some reviews on maternity products soon :)
Document your pregnancy. I've started writing a (private) blog documenting my pregnancy, mainly because I think it'll be good to look back and remember all the little things that I'll no doubt forget after the birth (even if I might not want reminding about them!). We also bought a baby journal type book, to document things for the baby, like what we both felt when we found out/saw the baby at the scan/heard the heartbeat etc. I love looking back at my own baby book, and was really excited to start one of my own!
Embrace change. Your body, mind, relationship and lifestyle will all start to change, from the very minute you fall pregnant. There is a hell of a lot to start getting used to, but if I have learnt one thing it is to go with the flow, accept and embrace the things that are happening, and learn to love it (even in getting fatter is hard to deal with!). Here are some really positive changes that I've experienced, because it certainly isn't all doom and gloom: my skin has cleared up dramatically, and has gone from super duper oily/combo, to normal/combo; my hair is super duper shiny and growing super duper fast; my outlook on life is a lot more positive; I get to do even more shopping now ;)
Trust your instincts. A lot of people, helpfully and sometimes unhelpfully, will offer their pearls of wisdom on every aspect of your new circumstances, and you can honestly be the nicest person in the world but still get a teeny bit fed up of all the well meaning advice and opinions. There are some things which I am eternally grateful for being told, but others (like "shouldn't you be buying a house now not wasting your money renting" from a work colleague) that I'd really rather people kept to themselves. At the end of the day, it is important to stay true to yourself, trust your instincts, and don't think things too personally.
There will be tears. More than normal! I'm quite an emotional person anyway, movies often reduce me to tears and I'm no stranger to crying in public! However, what I certainly didn't expect was the completely irrational waterworks, at very strange times. There were quite a few instances during my first trimester where I would just be stood washing my face or doing my make up of a morning and burst into hysterical tears, FOR NO REASON! This is where a very understanding partner is a godsend, because at first I felt like I was going insane! I've got used to it now!
You WILL be a yummy mummy. End of :)
I'm sure there are a million more things that I've forgotten to mention, but hey, that's baby brain for you ;)
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